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Oct 31, 20215 min read
BLM: My Life Matters
Originally posted 30 June 2020. Last year, I received a call from a former colleague. I was somewhat surprised when I saw her name pop...
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Oct 31, 20215 min read
I’m *Not* Dreaming of a White Christmas…
Originally posted 21 December 2018. Polite conversation, it has been said, should include neither religion nor politics. It is probably...
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Oct 31, 20211 min read
I'm Back!
It's been over a year since my last blog post. In that time, I have changed the name of my blog and lost some of my old content. But,...
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Oct 30, 20212 min read
Blame Culture
Originally posted 17 October 2017. I shared this on Instagram as my contribution to Make Motherhood Diverse and got some really positive...
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Oct 30, 20212 min read
“No Mummy, I Can Do It!”
Originally posted 16 May 2016. This is just a short post, but one that I felt I had to get off my chest. Mama Guilt has been weighing...
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Oct 28, 20217 min read
Yes, I’m a NICU Mum Too…(A Short Story) – Part Two
Originally posted 17 October 2017. So, today, Kid 1 is 9 years old. We bought her the new bicycle she has been banging on about. We...
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Oct 28, 20216 min read
Yes, I’m a NICU Mum Too… (A Short Story) – Part One
Originally posted 30 Sep 2017. That is a photo of Kid 1 almost 9 years ago now. She is just under 9 pounds. She is in an incubator…in...
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Oct 28, 20216 min read
I Want That One (Not the Black One)
Originally posted 3 August 2018. Yes, this is a post about how I feel when I see a Black child with a white doll and why I think it is...
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Oct 28, 20216 min read
Say My Name, Say My Name…
Originally posted 4 March 2019. As you know, I am the child of immigrant parents. My parents came to England from Nigeria; Anambra State,...
Oct 27, 20216 min read
Freelance Life as a Form of Contraception…
Originally posted 12 September 2018. As much as I love our little family unit, I think I’ve got at least one more pregnancy in me. But,...
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Oct 27, 20214 min read
If The Face Fits
Originally posted 16 March 2018. Now tell me, is this the face of a shoplifter? * Trigger warning * This post contains some...
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Oct 27, 20213 min read
Hey…How Does Your Garden Grow?
Originally posted 27 February 2017. By now, you must be fully aware of my womance (for those of you unfamiliar with this terminology,...
Oct 27, 20215 min read
Name-calling in the Playground
Originally posted 30 September 2016. When I was a kid, every single black adult was called either ‘auntie’ or ‘uncle’, whether they were...
Oct 27, 20213 min read
See No Evil (or More Monkey Business)
Originally posted 16 Jan 2018. This was originally an Instagram post that spilled into the comments as it was way too long. So, I made...
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Oct 27, 20214 min read
What Do You Do When Your Body Won’t Play Ball?
Originally posted 15 May 2017. It’s no secret. I have put on weight. I am probably the heaviest that I have ever been while not...
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Oct 27, 20216 min read
Be a Val
Originally posted 17 August 2017. So, I sat in my kitchen yesterday, listening to LBC on the radio (I know, I know…), in utter shock and...
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Oct 27, 20215 min read
It’s Good to Talk…
Originally posted 2 December 2016. Gosh! It’s been a while, hasn’t it? Feels good to be back… So, the other day I had a Skype coaching...
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Oct 27, 20214 min read
Some things I had forgotten about the morning commute
Originally posted 11 November 2016. A slightly ranty, although much more lighthearted than the previous one, post. As you may be aware, a...
Oct 27, 20212 min read
Thank-you Brexit!
Originally posted 10 November 2016. If not for you, yesterday would have felt a whole lot worse. I heard the news in the morning and I...
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Oct 27, 20217 min read
A “How To” Guide: When yours is the only non-white child in the classroom…
Originally posted 31 January 2017. I originally wrote this post during the Summer of 2016, but held onto it. I am publishing it today as...
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